Dating someone while they going through divorce
It can govern everything from financial support to relations between the parties.
This can include dating, permitting each party to see other people without a fear of legal action or loss of support.
Here are her responses to my questions: I dated after about 3 months of physical separation, though my husband and I had been emotionally separated and living separate lives for about a year.
At that point, however, I was still not really over the feelings of resentment and hurt I had experienced at the end of the marriage.
North Carolina law still permits an action for “alienation of affection” against a third party whom the plaintiff feels is responsible for ending the marriage.
Even if you did not begin dating someone until after the date of separation, a suspicious former spouse may see the new boyfriend or girlfriend as the cause of the marriage’s end and bring a court action.
Eventually, they successfully completed their divorce mediation program but were not able to return to their prior amicable relationship.
Marital misconduct can include abandonment and “illicit sexual behavior.” A former spouse could use evidence of your relationship, similar to the “alienation of affection” and “criminal conversion” claims, to argue that you are at fault for ending the marriage and deserve less financial support.
So, I didn’t realize that I was still pretty needy and vulnerable emotionally, which quickly derailed the first couple of relationships I had with new men.
I learned the hard way that it’s not wise to date if you’ve only been separated a short time.
The introduction of that new relationship seems to pour gas on the emotional fires making it much more difficult to resolve their legal/financial differences in our divorce mediation program so they can move on.
Since those fires already burn much hotter for those who hire separate litigation attorneys to “fight” their way through the courts, I can only imagine how much additional time, money and stress is created.